I know this isn't really about MY pregnancy, but it's something I kind of fell compelled to rant about.
My husband and I are on this e-mail list for his denomination. Theoretically, it is the list for the more liberal-minded among us. I don't really pipe up very much, mostly because I don't have much time. Also because I feel a bit awkward as a lot of the conversations are very theologically driven and I'm really not great at the theological discussions.
Anyway. There have been a few e-mail threads lately that really rubbed me the wrong way. There has been a lot of back and forth about how the best thing for a child is to be raised by their Biological parents. And that Homosexual parents can't do it right. She made a comment - "And yet, for the purpose of birthing and raising children - I think a society should recognize the wisdom and stability of traditional marriage."
I nearly had a fit. I know a LOT of people in "traditional marriages" who can't and shouldn't have children. Hell, I sometimes question OUR ability to raise a child. Being married to someone does not mean you are fit to raise them. Just because you pass along your genetics doesn't give you magic child-rearing abilities. So I told her that. I tried not to rant and rave too much, but I definitely got a little passionate.
It doesn't matter if you are a heterosexual couple or a homosexual couple or a poly-family with 8 adults. As long as you love and cherish that child and care for it...then you're a good parent. Doesn't matter if you are in a "traditional marriage" or not.
One thing we will definitely teach our child is that bigotry and bullshit like that is never acceptable.
I was raised by a heterosexual couple in a traditional marriage. I was loved and loved them. However, my teen years consisted of listening to them scream at each other at night and watching my mom devolve into an alcoholic. I would gladly have taken just one parent, two divorced parents, two same sex parents, six non-biological parents, anything to just have happiness in my house...
ReplyDeleteI have to agree with you April. I feel it's best to raise kids with a sense of equality and fairness. To give them the best education you can, to nudge them to have healthy habits over the board, and to show them unconditional love. I may not be able to take care of my little girl right now myself, but I know she's getting everything she needs and is happy up in NH with my ex and his family.
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